In the section Power of Dreams I said that the size of your success depends on the size of your dreams. How well you act on your dreams and achieve them will depend on the size of your faith.
However, I often used to wonder, what dictates the size of the dreams! Why is it that though a lot of people claim to believe in God, but have little faith. It is surprising that there are so many people who are blessed with so much of talent, but they never really achieve anything. Why is it that given a lot of opportunities, some people never do anything about it, whereas, a few make a fortune out of nothing?
God, made everybody equal, but we humans have set boundaries for ourselves.
- I am not good enough for this
- I am not made to be rich
- I do not have enough brains
- No body really can love me
- I am a born looser……
I am sure; you have heard people saying it. Maybe, you have been nurturing such self-limiting thoughts yourselves. At least I, plead guilty of it myself. These thoughts are in fact nothing but a product of a poor Self Image.
Self Image is the way you see yourself. It does not matter, what others think of you. Self image is what you think of yourself. Most of the people have difficulty in accepting the way they are. You ask people and a majority will say, that they were rather someone else than what they actually are.
Self image is a number of self impressions that you have created over time. These impressions may either be positive or negative, depending on your experiences. Whatever you will do in life or achieve will be a direct manifestation of your mental image of your own self.
Take the best opportunity to a person with a poor self image, and he will turn it down. Why? Simply because, in his mind he does not see himself capable of succeeding or achieving and so he thinks he is not good enough for the opportunity. There are so many sportsmen, who practice hard, break world records during practice sessions, but never seems to win medals in actual meet. Most people never get to reach the higher salary bracket, even though they have more talent than their colleagues. A lot of people never see themselves succeeding in their relationships, and they actually makes a mess of any relationship they get into. These are all because they see themselves in a poor light.
Our action in this material world is often controlled by the frame of references or the impressions that we have in our sub-conscious mind. If our self worth is low the frame of reference is that of self-doubt, fear and failure. Now, whatever is there in our sub-conscious mind, it dictates the decisions that we take consciously. A person suffering for poor self image, with his mind full of doubts, will always be his own judge and jury and castigate himself to a life of mediocrity.
On the other hand a person with healthy self image sees himself achieving and succeeding. He is comfortable with himself. He knows that he is good. It does not mean that he has the "I am the greatest" ego. This bloated ego in fact is just another manifestation of poor self image. A healthy self image means that the person accepts whatever he or she is. He accepts his shortcoming and work towards improving them, because he knows that he can succeed in becoming a better individual.
A person with healthy self image is happiness personified. He radiates positive energy. It does not mean that he does not have challenges, or the world has been partial with him. It simply means that he accepts challenges, see himself overcoming them, rising above situations and winning.